Our feelings can be so strong and influential that they are very hard to interpret correctly. When it comes to love and romance, it's especially crucial to tell the difference between what is superficial and what is meaningful. Relationships based on fickle feelings flounder. Relationships based on loving friendship can flourish, and, in the long run, be more fun--for the long run. Here is a list of contrasts between mere infatuation and the kind of love needed for a healthy guy/girl relationship or marriage.
Infatuation is based on superficials.
Love is based on perception and admiration of a person's heart--and spreading from there.
Infatuation pressures you to surrender your heart to its promise of positive feelings.
Love draws you to give up your independence and self-centeredness for the good of another person and a profound relationship.
Infatuation is an impersonal set of emotions projecting themselves onto a person.
Love has desire and devotion toward one person that exist for no one else.
Infatuation cares only about the future well-being of another as long as it involves oneself.
Love is excited about the future well-being of another even if oneself is not a direct part of it.
Infatuation can exist for multiple people at once.
Love can only exist for one.
Infatuation comes and goes easily.
Love lasts.
